“Whether you think you can or think you can’t, either way you are right”.

Henry Ford

If you keep thinking it, you will always be right, it will become your default experience.

Powerful Minds

“The mind is its own place, and in itself can make a heaven of hell, a hell of heaven…”

John Milton, Paradise Lost.

Scientific Research

This isn’t a scientific post although I do urge some consideration of these thoughts that come from research into the mind-brain-body-genome connection.

Our thoughts create shifts in the chemical activity of our neurons and produce molecules that correspond to our thoughts. This contributes to a continuous feedback loop that alters every aspect of our life simultaneously. It is perfectly coordinated and demonstrates the exceptional power of our minds and how we need to choose our thoughts carefully.

It’s up to each of us, using our insights, self-awareness, and a willing curiosity, to appreciate who we are because, consciousness is one of the keys to personal power. The master key.

“To be in control of your life, to master its countless challenges, what matters most isn’t what you do but who you are”. Deepak Chopra

Ella Fitzgerald (and others) sang about it.

“Oh, ’tain’t what you do; it’s the way that you do it

‘Tain’t what you do; it’s the way that you do it

‘Tain’t what you do; it’s the way that you do it

That’s what gets results”

Perhaps we should edit those lyrics just a little and sing, “Oh, ’tain’t what you do; it’s the way that you think it” because what we think ultimately becomes who we are.

Appreciating Your Wonderful Self

It’s great to share kindness with other people. But how often do we do that and forget to show some kindness toward ourselves? If we are willing to allow it, we have complete control over self-appreciation, and it is a good thing. It is not some selfish ego-based phenomenon.

Self-appreciation is about turning the kindness you give to others inside. Rather than blaming yourself for mistakes or forgetting to do things, self-appreciation is about saying “thank you” to yourself for everything you have done but taken for granted. It’s a personal pat on the back.

By appreciating the magnificent you, other people have the opportunity to see you and share in your unique brand of magic and that is positively infectious. On the opposite extreme, if we continually focus on a lack of self-appreciation, we will perpetuate negative feedback loops of lack. This too affects the way other people see us in their worlds.

Self-appreciating thoughts contribute to a happy biochemistry and a happier, healthier body. Negative, non-appreciating thoughts have been shown to degrade the body and brain functions because our thoughts and emotions are continuously re-creating our body. It’s up to us to adopt a positive frequency.

When The Walls Come Tumbling Down

When a challenging event strikes it’s so easy to become lost in the event. That’s hardly surprising since society sets us up to need to achieve from our early days. What do we do when we perceive the failure of any given thing? We beat ourselves up, wonder why, make excuses, take flight . . . How often do we say, “OK, that didn’t go quite to plan but do you know what? I did an excellent job of this, this and this”.

Write About It

Keeping a journal, or journal entries, which focus on self-appreciation helps to develop positive and highly-beneficial habits. Treating it like an appreciative mirror of your positive achievements will reflect back at you and lead to more positivity and prosperity. Focusing on the negative will distort the image of the wonderful you.

It’s easy to write a list of all the practical things we need to do to develop a positive and successful life, career or business yet, if we don’t work on self, we are omitting something crucial.

Give yourself a pat on the back, you are amazing.

Tools That Help

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I bow to the place in you that is love, light, and joy

Peace & Light

Steve Costello is a British Community & Youth Studies and Psychology honors graduate with over 30-years theoretical and practical experience in the Personal Development public and private sectors. He founded ExGro in 2018 with business partner, friend and clinical psychologist, Leo Faerberg.

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