Isn’t it wonderful how so many things seem to go exactly to plan when our positive vibrations are up and we’re in The Zone? I love that unstoppable feeling that goes with it and how everything flows. It’s pure bliss and that’s when my best work is achieved.

Outside The Zone

Or, the flip side of the Zone of Plenty. “Things” disrupt the flow and getting into that joyful place seems like an unattainable step. That’s life, things happen and when they do, our body language tells a story that needs no words.

Shoulders slump, tension rises, we grit our teeth, fingers stiffen, typos are made, we say things we didn’t mean to say, we go into ourselves or explode and frustrate others in the world around us. Our positive vibration is in our boots, other people go down with us. It’s not a happy place and it affects everything; including the things we write.

Love Letters

“The important thing is I don’t want to be without you for the next 20 years, or 40, or however many there are. I’ve gotten very used to being happy and I love you very much indeed.”

How was the writer of this love letter feeling other than love? I’m sure you can add a few of your own adjectives and negatives won’t creep in. The point is the way this writer was feeling at the time of writing would have affected his body language. A fly on the wall would have seen a man sitting upright, focused, smiling, relaxed, in the zone. I wonder how the rest of that day panned out. Positively, I think.

If you’re wondering who it was. Ronald Regan wrote it to his wife Nancy when he was governor of California just before their twentieth anniversary. I bet Nancy stood tall when she read it.

Mr or Mrs Angry

I mentioned these two characters in yesterdays post and used an image of an angry man to ask how you might feel at the prospect of giving him a hug. The “Simple Science” of that is an angry person is in a “low-power body position” and that increases cortisol.

When cortisol levels are too high for too long, this hormone can hurt you and contribute to weight gain and high blood pressure, disrupt sleep, negatively impact mood, reduce energy levels and contribute to diabetes. Try sitting down to write something when you feel like that. You may achieve your goal, but I argue that it will be far from your best work. I doubt that it would make a top ten as Ronald’s love letter to Nancy did.

I noticed a community comment recently where somebody had suggested that another person had responded to something angrily. Following the thread, I discovered the comment but what I couldn’t find were any words that might provoke an anger response in that individual from the original writer. I could only conclude that the person already felt anger and it was reflected in their comment which in turn affected the way somebody saw him. The comment was no longer than this paragraph and I’m still not sure what the commentators’ point was.

The Point Being

Even when we don’t knowingly put out our feelings and emotions, somebody will pick up on them.

High-Power Body Position

In the high-power pose, people are standing tall and testosterone is stimulated. This improves personal performance. Women and men have the testosterone hormone so it’s not just about the stereotype of men behaving badly.

Too little testosterone can lead to Irritability, poor concentration and depression in men and women although research into this is far from complete. Yet, testosterone isn’t stimulated if we continually adopt the low-power positions.

Our Body Tells A Story

Sitting upright, not slouching, standing tall, not hunched over, smiling not frowning all affect the way we perform, and self-awareness of our body language changes how we feel about ourselves and how people respond to us.

Tools That Help

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Peace & Light

Steve Costello is a British Community & Youth Studies and Psychology honors graduate with over 30-years theoretical and practical experience in the Personal Development public and private sectors. He founded ExGro in 2018 with business partner, friend and clinical psychologist, Leo Faerberg.

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