Following a brief conversation in the comments of my previous post on a business network, I made a commitment to a friend. One I believe to be exceptionally empowering and positive. I said that I would be writing this post and I wouldn’t be using a particular word. Well, apart from repeating a couple of things I said in that post to set the scene, I make that commitment to you too.

After the end of the next paragraph, I will no longer be using or allowing the use of the word “excuse”, or any of its synonyms, into my writing or thinking.

“Ralph Waldo Emerson said, “Imagination is a very high sort of seeing”. Absolutely true indeed. If we can visualize achieving something, excuses lose any hold over us that they may once have had. . . Imagine, just for a moment that the word “excuses” doesn’t exist in any languages and there are no synonyms for it”.

How Can I Erase?

Simply put, by putting the “Law of Attraction (LOA)” into use. This isn’t a new practice, thing or latest fad. It’s been around for a very long time and I’m not going to try to trace the origins except to say that it has also been known as “The Law of Love”. Like the weather or gravity, it is a law of nature and impartial. Anybody can appeal to it and often we are not even aware that we do so. Yet, how often do we wonder why certain things drop onto our laps, welcome or not?

We Get What We Ask For

Each and every thought we have or put out, emits a frequency – everything in the universe vibrates, so do we. I talked about love in a couple of recent posts because love is the highest frequency available to us. Checking back on some of the comments from those posts, it is evident that some people have had experiences that hurt and said they don’t feel the love. One person went on to say that he does love puppies. Love is there for all of us; we are limiting our thinking if we believe it is not so.

Here’s Your Delivery

When we order a home delivery pizza, it will arrive as ordered so long as we specified exactly what we wanted. If we want onions on the pizza, or not, we must specify clearly and check that our order has been heard as we intended. If we just order a Neapolitan pizza, we will get precisely that unless we provide specific instructions. Sending mixed signals won’t provide what we truly want.

I would like success in my business please!

What on earth does that mean?

  • I want to earn a lot of money
  • I would like to enjoy what I do
  • Let me be Internet famous . . .

Different Things To Different People

A quick Google search for a simple definition of success offered this:

“Success can be a certain social status that describes a prosperous person that could also have gained fame for its favorable outcome. The dictionary describes success as the following: “attaining wealth, prosperity and/or fame”.

If we discussed this, I’m sure we would produce some common understandings but the thing that stands out is that this is a non-specific definition. We need to find some specifics for what we want because what we put out there is what we get back. It’s up to us to create our reality with detailed thinking, plans and passionate action. If we can’t do that, we will always find more reasons not too and success will remain illusive and something we believe we are not worthy of in our unconscious or even conscious thinking.

I Don’t Want That!

Have you ever thought about something you don’t want and wondered why you got it anyway? As one of my favorite bands Coldplay sang, “you get what you want, not what you need”. It’s the price of putting it out there, whatever it was. The more you think about it, the more likely it is that you will get what you think about; you are creating your own experience.

You Are The Creator

What do you need? Let’s get clear about this, I mean really clear and with no doubts. If you want to be world-class in your niche; what exactly will it take? There can be no lack of clarity or doubt.

Write It Down; Share It

Once you are clear about what you need, write it down as though you already have it and be sure to K.I.S.S. it – Keep It Simple Sweetie – No ambiguities. Now share it with yourself, enjoy the buzz of what you have and Share It with the universe. Yes, I know our greatest critics are often those close to us because their thinking doesn’t always match what we see. Yet, if you vibrate at a high level of knowing that you will get what you need, your positive vibration will begin to affect them too. The naysayers will join your “yes” tribe if you want them.

If you are concerned about people who matter not supporting your journey, look closely at how you can get them involved; put it out there that you want them on your side. There’s no point in allowing the sun to set on an argument and it’s not about you being right or they wrong. It’s about sharing your clarity and sharing the love. Not everybody wants to drive a supercar; don’t expect them to want the same.

No Doubt

If you have any doubts that you can take passionate action to achieve what you need, it’s certain that you won’t achieve. Eventually your passion will fizzle out and fade if you truly had any to begin with. To get what you need, you must be crystal clear about what you want. You will always get something although the wrong pizza may arrive if you don’t order correctly.

“If you see it in your mind, you’re going to hold it in your hand”. Bob Proctor


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I bow to the place in you that is love, light, and joy and I wish you a wonderful day.

Peace & Light

Steve Costello is a British Community & Youth Studies and Psychology honors graduate with over 30-years theoretical and practical experience in the Personal Development public and private sectors. He founded ExGro in 2018 with business partner, friend and clinical psychologist, Leo Faerberg.

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