On Day 7 of Defying The Challenges, we are going to look at: What Energizes, What Drains?

I’m not going to talk about “universal energy” in this post or any related esoteric concepts of energy that some scientists insist are nothing more than anecdotal. What I will be discussing are feelings; when we feel energized and when we don’t. What leads to high-flowing energy and what leaves us feeling down and drained of energy. We all know what energizes, what drains. Or, do we?

In my work, I frequently help people to discover positive and negative energy and they are often unaware until we run a few simple exercises.

What Drives You?

One of the big differences I find between people who report feeling energized and those who do not is those who frequently feel energized have a purposeful driving force that takes precedent over everything else. If something negative and potentially draining crops up, they deal with it quickly and move on. They don’t allow things to become bigger things; at least most of the time.

Apart from a few short years after leaving school, I have always worked in the personal development industry. Initially under the umbrella of UK based education authorities, eventually within my own business. I have no doubts that the double-edged sword of personal development helps me and clients as we navigate our way through life. It is completely energizing regardless of the challenges it presents when I come across clients who are drained of positive energy. This is my driving force.

On A Scale of 1 to 10

My driving force never scores less than eight. It is matched to my skills and strengths and it never drains my energies. That is not to say there are things that aren’t energy sapping, we all have those, it’s part of the human experience yet we do have a choice to allow them or, not. Interestingly, when I score less than ten, there is always something external interfering with the positive flow.

The Current Climate

Not the weather, the rules we are expected to follow to help stop the spread of COVID-19. For the greater part, these rules are in place to help although some seem a step too far. Daily, I ride a mountain bike to a high-level. It energizes, keeps me physically fit and contributes to positive mental health. Currently, I am instructed not to ride more than 1-kilometer from home and stay within 1-hour. I live in a rural community and ride trails that are usually deserted even during normal times.

Yesterday, a woman shared an experience where her husband was fined by local police while out walking their dog within 400-meters of their rural home. He was carrying the correct papers. Also, yesterday, my wife, a healthcare professional, was stopped by police on her way to care for a patient. Despite all papers in order, the officer attempted to delay and fine her. Assertiveness and a positive attitude enabled her to continue the journey and deliver the care required. What was noticeable about both of these situations is that neither of the officers wore face masks or gloves. I wonder how many people they are interacting with each day.

If I allowed it, these examples are potential positive energy drains that could very easily divert attention from my driving force. I have to find solutions to disallow. There is no value in questioning why police officers don’t wear masks or gloves or why their interpretation of the rules seems at odds with government directives. My thoughts will change nothing and will only lead to an internal fight that will drain positive energies.

Daily Tasks and Challenges

Bills arrive, the children won’t cooperate, the house needs cleaning, again. There is a myriad of things in our daily lives at home or at work that we either don’t enjoy or are not particularly good at because we don’t have the motivation, skills or experience. Paying the bills might be a worry because there’s not enough money coming in. The children challenge us because they are bored and disconnected due to confinement at home. All of these and more potentially impact our lives in negative ways and take energy from the positives.

How Can We Challenge The Negatives?

Not by ignoring them or sticking our heads in the sand, that’s for sure. We have to accept that they exist and that they will crop up. A system of management is essential. But first, let’s find out what energizes and drains you with this simple table. I have given five lines for each, try not to use more. Include only those that come in your top-5 matter right now.

What Energizes?

What Drains?

Make A Plan

Using a diary, notebook or sheet of paper; plan out your day. I prefer to do this the evening before. It’s obvious where my appointments are so they have their fixed spaces. Starting with something positive that you know will generate energy, add it to your plan in an empty space at a time that suits you. Early in the day is best because on the back of the positive energy that this generates, you can add something less palatable to follow it. Leave a space for something that “crops up”. Add another positive to your plan or repeat the first one and follow the same process.

This exercise has several positive benefits:

  • It balances positive and negatives
  • The likelihood of getting everything done increases
  • Worrying about the challenges decreases because you have planned to get them done and left space for things that might crop up.
  • Taking control is energizing
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Celebrate

Once you have developed the flow of doing this daily, try extending to two days, a week . . . whatever works for you. It’s a positive habit that generates positive energy and over time, your draining list will decrease because you will know that you can effectively deal with it. Only add to your “What Drains” list after you can honestly say, “I have a plan for that item and it works”. Celebrate the feeling of removing negatives from your list. Every victory deserves a celebration.

You have a choice to feel drained or positively energized. If working at this alone is a step too far, consider one of our free sessions to get you started or enlist the support of a friend, colleague or member of your family who will allow you to share your goals and hold you accountable.

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Steve Costello is a British Community & Youth Studies and Psychology honors graduate with over 30-years theoretical and practical experience coaching in the Personal Development public and private sectors. He founded ExGro in 2018 with business partner, clinical psychologist and friend, Leo Faerberg.

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